Sexual Communications

If there ever was an area that needed to be more openly discussed among married couples, it’s this one: sex. It is easy to believe that every other couple has no difficulties with the subject. That if you and your spouse are having trouble when it comes to sex, you are the only ones. You couldn’t be further from the truth. Every couple will experience at least some difficulty in the area of sexual connection.



When it comes to sexual connection, there are three categories of couples. The sexually barren, the sexually average, and the blessed few. Membership in these categories has little to do with physical anatomy. To be part of the blessed few requires more of each person mentally, spiritually, emotionally, and physically.

Couples who fall in the sexually barren category often are not having sex due to reasons other than physical incompatibility. They often have resentment, bitterness, disappointment or all of the above directed towards their partner. While these emotions may manifest themselves in physical ways, the problem is not physical. It’s mental and emotional. If it truly is a physical issue, there are medical procedures and pharmacological products that may be tried. Viva Viagra, need I say more?

The sexually average are also not immune to these difficulties. Although they have most likely had times when they felt a deeper connection they are desperately trying to recapture the experience.

To reach the promised land of the blessed few requires you to be more present not only during sex, but also during life. You must grow up. And so must your spouse.

Anyone beyond the age of puberty is capable of having sex. But this doesn’t mean you’re ready to handle all the components surrounding sex. Truth is, most people aren’t ready for all the components. To do so requires much more than you may think you are capable.

Even if you have been having sex with your partner for years, for me it has been almost 15 years now, isn’t there a part of you that gets a bit anxious when it comes time for sex? Will I be turned down if I initiate? Will everything go great? Will I be able to perform? Will I achieve the connection I have desired for so long?

Sex is so much more than just an act. Sex is a language. When you begin to look at your sexual language, you will discover it is in line with how you live your life. It will uncover the areas of your life where you are insecure, scared, anxious, or even ashamed.

To begin the growth required to be among the blessed few, work to be more present with your spouse. Both during sex and the day to day interactions. Speak up about what’s going on inside your head. Listen to your spouse as they tell you what’s going on in theirs. It’s the fastest way to better sex.

Better sex doesn’t automatically create a better relationship, but the personal growth required to enhance sex and intimacy will improve the marriage in other ways. When you learn ways of maintaining yourself in your marriage you will improve all your relationships as well.



Here are a few ideas on creating a more passionate relationship:

1. Let the best in you run your life. If you’re like most people, you have a scared, angry, vindictive, or lazy side that limits the quality of your relationship. You don’t have to let that side of you run your life. Instead, live from the resilient side of you. Remind yourself of what is admirable, competent and good about yourself, and about your partner. Seek to relate to your partner as though they are capable of developing further as a person.

2. Sustain eye contact with your partner outside of the bedroom. This is a quick and meaningful (but not easy) way to stay in touch with your spouse. Begin with trying this during your conversations. Beyond this, make an agreement with each other to look into each other’s eyes for at least five minutes in a quiet, private place. This is not a staring contest. Instead, take the time to really look into each other and let yourself be seen. Expect to run into your own resistances. Note them in the back of your mind. Discuss the experience with your partner. In time, this will become a warm and inviting experience.

3. Hug until relaxed. This is a fascinating way to get more in touch with your partner and yourself. Prepare yourself by settling down, relax, take a few deep breaths and slow your heart rate. Balance yourself squarely over your own two feet. Close your eyes, take a deep breath and relax more. When the two of you are ready, open your eyes, without loosing your relaxed balanced position, hug so that you have one foot between your spouse’s feet. Get close enough to easily put your arms around your spouse without feeling off-balance, or pushing or pulling them off-balance. Let yourself relax into the hug and continue to breath. Lots of feelings about your partner, yourself, and your relationship are bound to surface. Note the resistances but don’t give in to them. After the agreed amount of time has passed, break the hug, then discuss the experience with your spouse. In time, you’ll be amazed by the improvements this brings.

4. Make eye contact in bed. Building upon the previous two points, try maintaining more eye contact in bed. Start by lying next to each other, and gaze into each other’s eyes as in tip #2. Seek to remain relaxed, focus on your partner and being seen by them. If you feel the urge to touch your partner, touch their face or hold their hand. Stay away from their genitals until you can both reach a relaxed connection with some reliability. You can then expand this activity to include foreplay and intercourse.

5. Pay attention to depth of involvement with your spouse during sex. When you and your spouse are actually having sex, you are using one or more of three psychological mindsets. You are focused on 1) physical sensations, 2) playing out sexual fantasies, and/or 3) engaging your partner. Most people seem to focus more on the first two. Instead, focus on engaging your partner during sex. Pay attention to what they seem to be thinking and feeling. Share with them what you are experiencing. Don’t just simply try and bring him or her to orgasm. Try to establish a deeper connection. Once you and your partner are good at engaging each other rather than getting lost in your sensations or playing out sexual scripts, you can work as a team to create terrific sexual experiences.

Sexual compatibility is developed over time. “Curl-your-toes sex” does not just happen by chance. It is co-created by both partners being more involved, not just physically present. When more of you comes forward, it is often greeted by more of your partner. This growth isn’t easy, but it’s the only way to enter into the realm of the blessed few.

Premature Ejaculation

What is premature ejaculation?
Premature ejaculation is uncontrolled ejaculation either before or shortly after sexual penetration, with minimal sexual stimulation and before the person wishes. It may result in an unsatisfactory sexual experience for both partners. This can increase the anxiety that may contribute to the problem. Premature ejaculation is one of the most common forms of male sexual dysfunction and has probably affected every man at some point in his life.
What causes premature ejaculation?

Most cases of premature ejaculation do not have a clear cause. With sexual experience and age, men often learn to delay orgasm. Premature ejaculation may occur with a new partner, only in certain sexual situations, or if it has been a long time since the last ejaculation. Psychological factors such as anxiety, guilt, or depression can cause premature ejaculation. In some cases, premature ejaculation may be related to an underlying medical cause such as hormonal problems, injury, or a side effect of certain medicines.
What are the symptoms?

The main symptom of premature ejaculation is an uncontrolled ejaculation either before or shortly after intercourse begins. Ejaculation occurs before the person wishes it, with minimal sexual stimulation.
How is premature ejaculation diagnosed?

Your doctor will discuss your medical and sexual history with you and conduct a thorough physical examination. Your doctor may want to talk to your partner also. Because premature ejaculation can have many causes, your doctor may order laboratory tests to rule out any other medical problem.
How is it treated?

In many cases, premature ejaculation resolves on its own over time without the need for medical treatment. Practicing relaxation techniques or using distraction methods may help you delay ejaculation. For some men, stopping or cutting down on the use of alcohol, tobacco, or illegal drugs may improve their ability to control ejaculation.

Your doctor may recommend that you and your partner practice specific techniques to help delay ejaculation. These techniques may involve identifying and controlling the sensations that lead up to ejaculation and communicating to slow or stop stimulation. Other options include using a condom to reduce sensation to the penis or trying a different position (such as lying on your back) during intercourse. Counseling or behavioral therapy may help reduce anxiety related to premature ejaculation.

Certain antidepressant medicines called selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs), such as fluoxetine (Prozac), paroxetine (Paxil), and sertraline (Zoloft), are sometimes used to treat premature ejaculation. These medicines are used because a side effect of SSRIs is inhibited orgasm, which helps delay ejaculation. The use of SSRIs for the treatment of premature ejaculation is not related to depression and is considered an "off-label" use.

5 Things You Didn't Know About Your Penis

Medical experts reveal interesting facts that men and women will find educational -- and surprising.
By Martin F. Downs
WebMD Feature
Reviewed by Louise Chang, MD

Here are some things you might have wondered about your penis, but were afraid to ask.
No. 1: Your Penis Does Have a Mind of Its Own

You've probably noticed that your penis often does its own thing. You may remember times when it was completely inappropriate to have an erection; and yet you couldn't wish it away.

It's true that you have less command over your penis than body parts like your arms and legs. That's because the penis answers to a part of the nervous system that's not always under your conscious control. This is called the autonomic nervous system, which also regulates heart rate and blood pressure.

Sexual arousal usually isn't voluntary. The conscious mind is complicit in it, but a lot of sexual arousal goes on in the sympathetic nervous system. In addition, impulses from the brain during the REM phase of sleep cause erections, whether you're dreaming about sex or about a test you forgot to study for. Heavy lifting or straining to have a bowel movement can also produce an erection.

Just as the penis grows without your consent, sometimes it shrinks. "The flaccid penis varies in size considerably within a given man," says Drogo Montague, MD, a urologist at the Cleveland Clinic. Exposure to cold water or air makes your penis shrink. That's a function of the sympathetic nervous system.

Psychological stress also involves the sympathetic nervous system, and stress has the same effect as a cold shower, Montague says. When you're relaxed and feeling well, your flaccid penis looks bigger than when you're stressed out.

The penis is "kind of a barometer of the sympathetic nervous system," Montague says. So the greeting, "How's it hanging?" is more apt than you might have realized.

(What are the questions you have about your penis? See what other guys have to say on WebMD's Men's Health: Man to Man message board.)
No. 2: Your Penis May Be a 'Grower' or a 'Show-er'

Among men, there is no consistent relationship between the size of the flaccid penis and its full erect length.

In one study of 80 men, researchers found that increases from flaccid to erect lengths ranged widely, from less than a quarter inch to 3.5 inches longer.

Whatever the clinical significance of these data may be, the locker-room significance is considerable. You can't assume that a dude with a big limp penis gets much bigger with an erection. And the guy whose penis looks tiny could surprise you with a big erection.

An analysis of more than thousand measurements taken by sex researcher Alfred Kinsey shows that shorter flaccid penises tend to gain about twice as much length as longer flaccid penises.

A penis that doesn't gain much length with an erection has become known as a "show-er," and a penis that gains a lot is said to be a "grower." These are not medical terms, and there aren't scientifically established thresholds for what's a show-er or a grower.

Kinsey's data suggest that most penises aren't extreme show-ers or growers. About 12% of penises gained one-third or less of their total length with an erection, and about 7% doubled in length when erect.

Your Guide to the Sexual Response Cycle

The sexual response cycle refers to the sequence of physical and emotional changes that occur as a person becomes sexually aroused and participates in sexually stimulating activities, including intercourse and masturbation. Knowing how your body responds during each phase of the cycle can enhance your relationship and help you pinpoint the cause of any sexual problems.

What Are the Phases of the Sexual Response Cycle?
The sexual response cycle has four phases: excitement, plateau, orgasm, and resolution. Both men and women experience these phases, although the timing usually is different. For example, it is unlikely that both partners will reach orgasm at the same time. In addition, the intensity of the response and the time spent in each phase varies from person to person. Understanding these differences may help partners better understand one another's bodies and responses, and enhance the sexual experience.

Phase 1: Excitement
General characteristics of the excitement phase, which can last from a few minutes to several hours, include the following:

* Muscle tension increases.
* Heart rate quickens and breathing is accelerated.
* Skin may become flushed (blotches of redness appear on the chest and back).
* Nipples become hardened or erect.
* Blood flow to the genitals increases, resulting in swelling of the woman's clitoris and labia minora (inner lips), and erection of the man's penis.
* Vaginal lubrication begins.
* The woman's breasts become fuller and the vaginal walls begin to swell.
* The man's testicles swell, his scrotum tightens, and he begins secreting a lubricating liquid.

Phase 2: Plateau
General characteristics of the plateau phase, which extends to the brink of orgasm, include the following:

* The changes begun in phase 1 are intensified.
* The vagina continues to swell from increased blood flow, and the vaginal walls turn a dark purple.
* The woman's clitoris becomes highly sensitive (may even be painful to touch) and retracts under the clitoral hood to avoid direct stimulation from the penis.
* The man's testicles are withdrawn up into the scrotum.
* Breathing, heart rate, and blood pressure continue to increase.
* Muscle spasms may begin in the feet, face, and hands.
* Muscle tension increases.

Phase 3: Orgasm
The orgasm is the climax of the sexual response cycle. It is the shortest of the phases and generally lasts only a few seconds. General characteristics of this phase include the following:

* Involuntary muscle contractions begin.
* Blood pressure, heart rate, and breathing are at their highest rates, with a rapid intake of oxygen.
* Muscles in the feet spasm.
* There is a sudden, forceful release of sexual tension.
* In women, the muscles of the vagina contract. The uterus also undergoes rhythmic contractions.
* In men, rhythmic contractions of the muscles at the base of the penis result in the ejaculation of semen.
* A rash, or "sex flush" may appear over the entire body.

Phase 4: Resolution
During resolution, the body slowly returns to its normal level of functioning, and swelled and erect body parts return to their previous size and color. This phase is marked by a general sense of well-being, enhanced intimacy and, often, fatigue. Some women are capable of a rapid return to the orgasm phase with further sexual stimulation and may experience multiple orgasms. Men need recovery time after orgasm, called a refractory period, during which they cannot reach orgasm again. The duration of the refractory period varies among men and usually lengthens with advancing age.

10 Surprising Health Benefits of Sex

The health benefits of sex extend well beyond the bedroom. Turns out sex is good for you in ways you may never have imagined. When you're in the mood, it's a sure bet that the last thing on your mind is boosting your immune system or maintaining a healthy weight. Yet good sex offers those health benefits and more.

That's a surprise to many people, says Joy Davidson, PhD, a New York psychologist and sex therapist. "Of course, sex is everywhere in the media," she says. "But the idea that we are vital, sexual creatures is still looked at in some cases with disgust or in other cases a bit of embarrassment. So to really take a look at how our sexuality adds to our life and enhances our life and our health, both physical and psychological, is eye-opening for many people."

Sex does a body good in a number of ways, according to Davidson and other experts. The benefits aren't just anecdotal or hearsay -- each of these 10 health benefits of sex is backed by scientific scrutiny.

Among the benefits of healthy loving in a relationship:
1. Sex Relieves Stress

A big health benefit of sex is lower blood pressure and overall stress reduction, according to researchers from Scotland who reported their findings in the journal Biological Psychology. They studied 24 women and 22 men who kept records of their sexual activity. Then the researchers subjected them to stressful situations -- such as speaking in public and doing verbal arithmetic -- and noted their blood pressure response to stress.

Those who had intercourse had better responses to stress than those who engaged in other sexual behaviors or abstained.

Another study published in the same journal found that frequent intercourse was associated with lower diastolic blood pressure in cohabiting participants. Yet other research found a link between partner hugs and lower blood pressure in women.
2. Sex Boosts Immunity

Good sexual health may mean better physical health. Having sex once or twice a week has been linked with higher levels of an antibody called immunoglobulin A or IgA, which can protect you from getting colds and other infections. Scientists at Wilkes University in Wilkes-Barre, Pa., took samples of saliva, which contain IgA, from 112 college students who reported the frequency of sex they had.

Those in the "frequent" group -- once or twice a week -- had higher levels of IgA than those in the other three groups -- who reported being abstinent, having sex less than once a week, or having it very often, three or more times weekly.
3. Sex Burns Calories

Thirty minutes of sex burns 85 calories or more. It may not sound like much, but it adds up: 42 half-hour sessions will burn 3,570 calories, more than enough to lose a pound. Doubling up, you could drop that pound in 21 hour-long sessions.

"Sex is a great mode of exercise," says Patti Britton, PhD, a Los Angeles sexologist and president of the American Association of Sexuality Educators and Therapists. It takes work, from both a physical and psychological perspective, to do it well, she says.

4. Sex Improves Cardiovascular Health

While some older folks may worry that the efforts expended during sex could cause a stroke, that's not so, according to researchers from England. In a study published in the Journal of Epidemiology and Community Health, scientists found frequency of sex was not associated with stroke in the 914 men they followed for 20 years.

And the heart health benefits of sex don't end there. The researchers also found that having sex twice or more a week reduced the risk of fatal heart attack by half for the men, compared with those who had sex less than once a month.
5. Sex Boosts Self-Esteem

Boosting self-esteem was one of 237 reasons people have sex, collected by University of Texas researchers and published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior.

That finding makes sense to Gina Ogden, PhD, a sex therapist and marriage and family therapist in Cambridge, Mass., although she finds that those who already have self-esteem say they sometimes have sex to feel even better. "One of the reasons people say they have sex is to feel good about themselves," she tells WebMD. "Great sex begins with self-esteem, and it raises it. If the sex is loving, connected, and what you want, it raises it."
6. Sex Improves Intimacy

Having sex and orgasms increases levels of the hormone oxytocin, the so-called love hormone, which helps us bond and build trust. Researchers from the University of Pittsburgh and the University of North Carolina evaluated 59 premenopausal women before and after warm contact with their husbands and partners ending with hugs. They found that the more contact, the higher the oxytocin levels.

"Oxytocin allows us to feel the urge to nurture and to bond," Britton says.

Higher oxytocin has also been linked with a feeling of generosity. So if you're feeling suddenly more generous toward your partner than usual, credit the love hormone.
7. Sex Reduces Pain

As the hormone oxytocin surges, endorphins increase, and pain declines. So if your headache, arthritis pain, or PMS symptoms seem to improve after sex, you can thank those higher oxytocin levels.

In a study published in the Bulletin of Experimental Biology and Medicine, 48 volunteers who inhaled oxytocin vapor and then had their fingers pricked lowered their pain threshold by more than half.
8. Sex Reduces Prostate Cancer Risk

Frequent ejaculations, especially in 20-something men, may reduce the risk of prostate cancer later in life, Australian researchers reported in the British Journal of Urology International. When they followed men diagnosed with prostate cancer and those without, they found no association of prostate cancer with the number of sexual partners as the men reached their 30s, 40s, and 50s.

But they found men who had five or more ejaculations weekly while in their 20s reduced their risk of getting prostate cancer later by a third.

Another study, reported in the Journal of the American Medical Association, found that frequent ejaculations, 21 or more a month, were linked to lower prostate cancer risk in older men, as well, compared with less frequent ejaculations of four to seven monthly.

9. Sex Strengthens Pelvic Floor Muscles

For women, doing a few pelvic floor muscle exercises known as Kegels during sex offers a couple of benefits. You will enjoy more pleasure, and you'll also strengthen the area and help to minimize the risk of incontinence later in life.

To do a basic Kegel exercise, tighten the muscles of your pelvic floor, as if you're trying to stop the flow of urine. Count to three, then release.
10. Sex Helps You Sleep Better

The oxytocin released during orgasm also promotes sleep, according to research.

And getting enough sleep has been linked with a host of other good things, such as maintaining a healthy weight and blood pressure. Something to think about, especially if you've been wondering why your guy can be active one minute and snoring the next.

All sex positions

The Grand-daddy of all complete lists - if you can't find it here it either doesn't exist, or you should be in the circus! Jokes aside, if you know of one we don't have, make sure to send it in so that we can put it on the to-do list, if it isn't there already!

Ah, so many positions and so little time to try them all! Remember that there is always tomorrow... and make sure to add your feedback!

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• 68 (Hers) Oral Heaven - focus 100% on her while she simply relaxes - she'll thank you for it! 69 less 68... she owes you one! :)

• 68 (His) It's her turn to focus 100% on him, while he just soaks up the sensations! 69 less 68... he owes you one! :)

• 68 (Sideways) Laying on your side head-to-toe means you can 'get hit' by all kinds of intimate, sexy oral fun. Deee-licious...

• 69 Give-as-you-get oral pleasure! It can almost be just too much to take ... if so, be careful not to bite down TOO hard! :P

• 69 (Inverted) More give-as-you-get pleasure, just flipped over so he's on top. Not much movement for her, so watch the periscope depth sailor!

• 69 (Kneeling) Feel like adding a considerable lift to your lay (day)? Try this one - but for the sturdier of back and strong of arm only...

• 69 (Sideways) Total comfort and dual oral - who could reasonably ask for more? Lick, suck, rest... lick, suck, rest... you get the idea!

• 69 (Sitting) Feel like adding a little lift to your lay (day)? For those who like a challenge but aren't quite up to the Standing or Kneeling oral sex versions.

• 69 (Standing) Feeling like adding a really BIG lift to your lay (day)? For the sturdiest of backs and strongest of arm only... steady there Big Boy!

• Acrobat Some balance required - but no high wire! Whether you need a safety net (or not) depends on how high you fly!

• Amazon Go wild... the receiver might need help sustaining the exploration, but will love the trip. No leeches either - bonus!

• Amazon (Reverse) A return trip to the wild side of life... only via a different route! A good job for you that you have a trusty lookout up there.

• Arch Look, here it is... for those givers with no directional sense and who need a little encouragement, a can't miss position!

• Arm Chair Not quite as comfortable as the name implies, a rocking good time none-the-less! Now where did he leave the darn remote...?

• Asian Cowgirl 'Giddy-up'... equestrians will be at a definite advantage here! She'll have him taking the fences in no time.

• Asian Cowgirl (Reverse) 'Giddy-up' in reverse... for those who like to see where they are cumming from, rather than where they are cumming to! :)

• Atten-hut This 5-fingered salute is one that is sure to make you stand to attention! You don't want to go off half-cocked... steady now!

• Ballerina Ok-ok ... we know that the slightly arthritic are raising their eyes (rather than their leg) toward heaven, but for those who can-can ... do-do!

• Basset Hound It's a dog's life, "Woof, woof". This one is for those who like to get down with their sex... way down! He's a "Lucky Dog" I say!!

• Ben Dover ...and Phil McCavity... groan!! Sex and stretching... a great warm-up if you want to try our Sexercise section!

• Bended Knee A perfect 'proposal' position... who needs a ring? Hey, it's Leap Year and she's on her knees too. Here's your big chance girls!

• Bent Spoon Even if you find the position tough - keep trying... abs of steel for those who persevere!

• Bodyguard The only extra protection you might need is a condom... with the Bodyguard to cover your back you are safe to relax!

• Bridge A Bridge Too Far? Not for those flexible and strong enough to go out there and give it their all for their comrade.

• Brute Giddy-up... in reverse. For those who like to see where they are cumming from, rather than where they are cumming to! :)

• Bulldog A tip from the canine world... use those haunches for flexible positioning and maximum leverage!

• Bumper Cars For when you can't stand the sight of each other any more - but they are still a really good lay! Just kidding! :)

• Butterfly Beauty in its simplicity... flying isn't just for the birds - wing your way over the top with this one!

• Cowboy Saddle-up; you could be in for a heck of a ride. Just be a gent and remember to take the spurs off first - ouch!!

• Cowgirl 'Saddle-up' - you could be in for a heck of a ride too... she could even leave the spurs on if you really want!!

• Cradle This one is so much fun you will want to take it from the Cradle to the... well, it sure would be a great way to go, wouldn't it?!

• Cross For all you missionaries out there, you might enjoy this one - just don't get hung up on it. :)It's sooooooooooo comfortable and gives a great view too.

• Dancer You've turned up the heat - now turn up the volume, get down to the beat and get intimate with the Dancer - but mind the toes. Ouch!

• Deck Chair Take it easy in the Deck Chair and go for the G spot with deep penetration - something for both of you ;)

• Deck Chair (Folded) OK here's a Deck Chair that needs a little more effort from the receiver, and offers more control to giver, but pleasures you both.

• Deep Impact Here's something for the girl who wants her man on his knees, giving all he's got - but no proposal.

• Deep Stick Deep stick - it is what it says on the can... Deep! Any size, any where. Enjoy that long intimate stroke - but go slow for best effect!

• Delight The Delight is delightfully intimate, gentle as the Butterfly, stings like a bee, but sweet as honey.

• Doggy Style To all canine lovers, everybody loves the Doggy - woof woof. You've just got to give it a try.

• Doggy Style (Standing) This one will knock you off your feet if you don't hold on tight. All that thrusting gives a great quad workout. Phew!

• Doggy Style (Twisted) Here's the Doggy most suited to anal sex - if that's your fancy. It's challenging but good fun trying.

• Downstroke Getting to the bottom with Downstroke. Here's something for those who love a challenge. Especially when the reward is infinitely worth the effort.

• Drill Drill to thrill? Yes please :) Hold on with your vice like grip for deep penetration and sustained pleasure.

• Drive-Thru Here's a Drive-Thru with a difference ;) Be respectful and don't forget to place your order before you chow down.

• Ear Muffs Ever heard of the three wise monkeys? Here it is, 'See all, hear all and say nothing'. Just enjoy ... the occasional "Mmmmmmm" will suffice :) 3 wise what?

• Eve's Ecstasy Eve's Ecstasy is all about control, stimulation and access. While the performer lays back and chows down.

• Forbidden Fruit A forbidden fruit recommended more than five times a day to keep the doctor away. This is a diet to die for!

• Frog Leap Even if your frog is no prince - he can still service your lily pad from behind, before you over cook those legs.

• Fuck Face Ok - the name might not win any awards for subtlety, but it is what it says on the label - and it sure takes some licking!

• Fusion This variation on the Armchair is not for relaxing, in fact it is so exciting it might just Fuse you both together.

• Game's On Wow.... Game On! Bring it on - it's not intimate but it sure makes for good viewing while dining out.

• Head to Toe (Inverted Missionary) The skill is in the positioning. The pleasure is in the viewing. The added value is the pec workout.

• Head to Toe (Missionary) For those for whom the journey is more important than the destination... "Now I now I left her here somewhere!"

• Head to Toe (Spoons) Included for the sheer belief that almost anything might be possible if you believe in it hard and long enough (puns intended).

• Intersextion Most accidents happen at the intersextion, so make sure you get in to the right lane, unless you want to get rear-ended!!

• Jack Hammer A tool that really rattles your teeth and fills your cavities. Hard work was never so much fun.

• Jellyfish You don't have to go for a swim to get a sting from this Jellyfish! Just enjoy the motion of the ocean.

• Jockey The Jockey is going nowhere fast ... he's here for the whole ride. Giddyup, go easy on the crop!

• Jockey (Inverted) Saddle-sore from the regular Cowboy? Nope, just coming on down to take up a more intimate position. Aw, shucks...

• Lap Dance (Reverse Mastery) All the excitement of the Club - but without others watching you. So many places you can try this without even leaving home.

• Leg Glider For all you high flyers, Gliding is a great way to reach for the sky, catapulting you into the great blue yonder. Strap yourselves in for take-off.

• Licking the Flag Pole You don't want her putting the flag to half-mast after you've finished... show her the colors and your pole might be next!

• Lotus This one is very intimate and sooo relaxing - breath deep and slow, just make sure you don't nod off.

• Lotus (Kneeling) Like the regular Lotus, this one will have you praying enthusiastically for more! Meditate as you copulate.

• Lunges Who needs to go to the gym for a great workout? Have a look at our Sexercise section for more great ideas!

• Mastery Master this one for intimacy, tenderness ... and good old lust! Sweet moments were made for this, so relax and enjoy.

• Mastery (Suspended) When all the tenderness and intimacy of Mastery gets too much, break off for minute and let it all hang out.

• Mirror of Pleasure Reflect on how good this position looks and feels, and you might want to see it happen again and again...

• Missionary Actually nothing to do with Christian Missionaries as this one has been around since ancient times! But it never hurts to pray for more.

• Missionary (Inverted) Again, not a Christian Missionary (upside-down or right-way up) - it's just Women's Lib in action, with the lady on top.

• Missionary (Kneeling) How else would you expect to find a Missionary? No need to pray here - it looks like they have already been answered!

• Missionary (Standing) You might think that from that angle he doesn't have a prayer of penetrating; but miracles CAN happen!

• Oral Therapy A visit to the Shrink was surely never this good! A great example of the Little Head getting the very best treatment.

• Pearly Gates If you are looking for the gates to heaven, you may have found them! Just make sure St. Peter isn't watching, unless of course you want him to...

• Peepshow Peek-a-boo! Come out of the shadows and into the light... do this one right and you'll be taking curtain-calls all night.

• Pie in the Sky Yummy!! Better than Momma's best baking... this one will have you salivating for more - careful with the hot gravy now!

• Pile Driver This one will really rock your socks. Not for the faint of heart or those looking for a 'tender moment'.

• Pirate's Bounty You don't need to have a Treasure Chest to enjoy this one, but it doesn't hurt if you do. He'll just be grateful that you walked his plank.

• Prison Guard Who would want to 'break-out' of this one? Guys - show some restraint here or you may end up in solitary!

• Pump The pump can be a great way to inflate your partner, but make sure have good balance to avoid injuries!

• Rear Entry No - not where the domestic help enters... unless you give 'payment-in-kind'. Surprisingly intimate to say it could be anyone back there!

• Riding The Face Get a secure hold because things can change fast up there... just mind out where you put those crampons.

• Rodeo Ride your bull, or buck your bronco - either way you are in for a ride! The clown can't get in your way - he is underneath you :)

• Scarf Guaranteed to warm things up... the Scarf is great for all weathers. No need for hat and gloves though - unless you're outdoors.

• Scissors If you want to be on the cutting-edge of position variety give this one a try. It's different, but not too difficult - a snip really!

• Screw The name says it all. Gyrate those hips and be grateful that this is one thread you can't strip even if you get over-excited.

• See-Saw Don't try this one in the playground - unless you want to get arrested! A nice, smooth action where no-one gets the bumps...

• Side Rider Side Rider is like riding side-saddle; it looks much more comfortable than it is. No wonder she looks like she is getting ready to hop off the bus!

• Side to Side A good transitional position as you try out all the rest, or a great way to take a breather without breaking it off (the action that is!).

• Sitting Bull You might not just say 'How!', but 'Why?'. The how we can explain, the why is up to you ... maybe it's just because you can!

• Sockets Any difficulty in plugging-in will be more than compensated by the buzz and tingle as the friction sets you both alight...

• Southern Exposure Sounds like a version of a drink that will leave you with a REAL Comfort-able 'hang-over'. I'll take mine shaken - not stirred!

• Spoons No - not the kind you eat your cereal with... This position is cozy and comfortable, and it makes a great way to start or finish a day!

• Spread Eagle Help her find those thermals and she can soar with the birds! Follow her lead, don't you get greedy and dive too soon...

• Stand and Carry Remember proper lift technique; straight back and bent legs. Weightlifters, don't get carried away - this isn't the official 'Snatch'.

• Suplex A wrestling move that's sure to blow him over - and he won't tap out to be let back up, but he sure will beg for more!

• Teaspoons A 'compact' form of spoons, teaspoons is an idyllic way to pass the time ... as the Brits would say, "Anyone for Tea?"

• The Butler "You rang?... it's awfully dark out there ma'am, either that or this peephole needs a darn good dusting!

• The Plumber The Plumber's Crack takes on a whole new meaning! Shouldn't he be the one checking out her pipes for leaks?

• The Usual If you are fortunate enough to be able to call this the Usual... all we can say is "You Lucky B*st*rd!"

• Throat Swab "Open wide", but who says "Aaaaaagh" here? Real patient power... playing doctor, but with the patient GIVING the treatment!

• Turtle This should bring even the most shy out of their shell! Slow and steady... sometimes it's the turtle who catches the hare!

• Twister A much more fun variation on the floor game. A great way to REALLY get to know all each other's important little places...

• Under the Hood Calling amateur car mechanics everywhere... this is one time you won't mind losing your dipstick!

• Victory Churchill's famous 'V' takes on a totally new meaning as SHE reaches for the sky! This is the ORIGINAL high-flying Victory Roll!!

• Viennese Oyster No-one said you have to swallow an oyster for it to be considered an aphrodisiac ... here's an alternative!

• Wheelbarrow With a little imagination (& if he is excited enough) this one could be re-titled the Three-Legged Wheelbarrow Race... :P