Four sex enhancers

1. Drink more water and drink less of the bad stuff: Having enough water in you is critical to your over all health and the health of your skin. Drinking more water and less bad stuff also gets the toxins out of your body faster. This effects your over all health and can greatly impact how you look and feel.

What's the bad stuff ?

Coffee , soda or any drink with a lot of sugar. Not only is a lot of sugar bad for you but you gain weight from it.

2. Take a walk a few times a week: Try to walk at a fairly fast pace. If you walk too slow it will only make you tired and you won't be getting much exercising done. By walking faster your body starts to create more energy which you'll enjoy throughout the day. Hopefully you can work up a sweat, this will allow you to clean the pores of your skin from the inside out. This is the best way to keep your skin looking healthy.

3. Use lotion often: Apply lotion every time you shower and after you wash your face before bed. This is the second half of keeping your skin looking sexy. The first half is drinking water. Your goal is to hydrate your skin from the inside and outside. Doing one without the other will only get you half the results.

4. Get some sun a few times a week: This doesn't mean you need to lay out in the sun 5 days a week. Just try to be out in the sun for at least 30 minutes solid or so a few times a week.

The sun is one of the few natural sources of vitamin D (also known as the "feel good vitamin"). Doing this will make sure you get enough vitamin D and provide a little more tan than you had already. If you're walking a few times a week getting that extra sun should be easy.

These tips are best used together.

If you're taking walks and getting extra sun but not drinking water and continuing to drink soda this obviously isn't a good combination.

If you use all of these tips together you'll find yourself looking and feeling sexier soon.

Short Story : Drink more water, exercise a few times a week, use lotion and get some sun.

Seven ways to attract your husband to yourself

Ladies, it's time to turn off the comfortability and turn on the sex appeal with our husbands! Here's some simple ways to get him noticing us again.

1. Hygiene

It's so easy to get into a routine where we are simply comfortable with our men. We decide that we don't really need to take a shower, that they're going to love us anyway, even in our funk. We decide it's okay to go without wearing deodorant because they'll love us anyway. Sure they will, but it's definitely not attractive!

Think of how you attracted your husband in the beginning of your relationship! You were definitely clean, showered, and I guarantee you went a little overboard with the perfume! Look where it got you! He promised to spend the rest of his life with you, so let's keep ourselves smelling nice, ladies. Take a shower. Brush your teeth. Don't be scared of the deodorant. Please, wear perfume.

We'll not only attract him, but we'll feel better about ourselves and maybe, just maybe, we'll get compliments from others that would help boost our own encouragement, which is always sexy! It does say in the Bible in Proverbs 27:9 that "...perfume makes the heart glad." Let's make our husbands' heart glad!

2. Dress to Impress

I know, I know... we women love those sweats! I have to agree that I would much rather choose sweats and a t-shirt over a dress and heels. However, we don't necessarily need to overdo the scrubby look. Some men do like this "natural" look, but keep it fresh and try to look nice for your man every now and then. You don't need to wear a dress or heels, but I can bet that each and every one of you have something "sexy" in your closet that you can bring out, even if it's not a special occasion. Just a reminder - if you follow through with #1, you'll look and feel great without fulfilling #2! Not only does it feel great to look stunning, but your husband will be all over you.

3. Lips & Eyes

Keep your gloss or lipstick in your purse at all times! Eyeliner is a must have! You never know when you'll need it. A little goes a long way! I've asked many of my friends what item in their makeup bag was most important and often I've heard, "Lipstick, eyeliner or mascara." Your eyes and your lips are always looked at. Forget about the blush and the foundation. As long as you keep your lips looking absolutely kissable and your eyes bold as ever, you'll have your man noticing you.

4. Body Maintenance

I'm not talking about spending hundreds on spa treatments or anything of the sort. What I'm going to suggest can easily be done in the comfort of your home. Keep your fingernails and your toes looking well maintained. There's nothing worse than having some unpainted, dirty, stained toes that might need a little trim or fingernails with chipped polish. If you can't afford getting to the salon to get your usual manicure/pedicure, do it yourself. The color red symbolizes passion and love... just a suggestion if you're thinking of attracting him in that way. Also, shave those legs. Period. (His shaver probably works best.)

5. No Nagging Allowed - Attitude Adjustment

Easier said than done. When your husband doesn't do something that you wanted him to do, be quiet about it. Before you say something, think about it first and think about how you can say it gently. Trust me, this is a tactic that works well. Men don't ask for a lot. They do hate nagging wives, though. I'm a woman who looks to the Bible for advice on my marriage and how to be a better wife.

In the wonderful book of Proverbs, it says that it's better to live on the corner of a roof than to live with a quarrelsome wife. Don't try to change your husband or control him. Trying to tell your husband to change is pretty much like telling him how to breathe differently. It's not going to happen and if it does, it won't come without resentment on his part. Let's be happy with who they are as men. Only the beauty of a true woman, with a gentle and quiet spirit, can truly change a man for the better.

6. Confidence

You've heard it before - confidence is attractive. It sure is! Even our husbands are capable of seeing confidence shining through us. Be confident in yourself, in him, and in your marriage. When I say confident, it means that you trust yourself and you trust him. You should never accuse him for things you might feel suspicious of. You can easily say that you trust him, but he'll know and so will others if you do in fact trust him completely. When you talk to your friends about him, your trust or lack of, will definitely show in the way that you talk about him. Don't ever bash your husband.

Better sex positions

The missionary position described

Most couples probably know how it works - the woman lies on her back with her legs apart and the man lowers himself on top of her, supporting his weight with his elbows, and enters her with his legs either inside or outside hers (usually inside). He may lower himself onto her and rest more of his weight on her body. The woman can wrap her legs around him to control the depth and speed of his thrusting into her vagina, or she may thrust a little towards him from her pelvis to match his movements in and out of her vagina.

Basic missionary

The female lies on her back with her legs spread apart (or closed - see below). The male then lowers himself on top of the female with his arms supporting his weight. From this position the male has the freedom to thrust or make circular movements with his thighs. If he lowers himself closer to her and rests some of his weight on top of her body, his pubic bone can provide gentle clitoral stimulation. The female can thrust her middle body towards the man using the support of her legs, or grasp the man from behind controlling somewhat his thrusting movements.

Variations on the basic missionary

The coital alignment technique

This is a way in which the woman's clitoris can be stimulated more than in the basic missionary. The man enters from between the woman's legs as he would normally, but he then moves further up the woman's body so that the base of his penis can make contact with her clitoris when he thrusts. The woman can wrap her legs around her partner's, placing her feet on his calves, stretching her legs slightly as she does so, which again tends to move her clitoris towards the man's penis. If she rocks her pelvis in this position, her clit should make contact with the base of the man's penis and she will be stimulated both internally and externally. "The subtle, coordinated rocking movement can begin. Here's the most important part: As she pushes up on the top of his shaft, he resists with less force than she pushes. Now, on the way back down, as he pushes down against her clitoris, she resists with less force than he pushes. The result is a series of "small collisions," rather than the standard friction of thrusting. But collisions is a strong word. The movement is subtle, coordinated, gentle, rhythmic, slow-building. Like everything in life, it takes practice. This is more than a position; it's a coordinated movement, Eichel explains. "We are now talking about vibration, not friction. Less in and out and more rock 'n' roll." "The man is actually shallow when the woman is getting the most stimulation on the downward push," Eichel says.

Woman lifts her legs

There are many ways both the man and the woman can move during the missionary which will alter what they both feel. The female partner may find that the man's penis stimulates her G-spot much more in certain positions, and that if he thrusts gently she may attain a state of increasing sexual energy which eventually leads to a G-spot or vaginal orgasm. For example, the woman can lift and bend her legs and place her feet on the mattress or on her partner's legs. The effect of this is enhanced if the woman moves her feet up to her partners' buttocks. (Which may even enhance the CAT described above.)

Woman's legs locked around the man

The higher the woman raises her legs, the deeper the man can enter her. If she is flexible enough to get her legs around his back, this will permit him to get deep into her - a delicious feeling for many women, and certainly rewarding for the man, although such deep penetration can cause him to come quite quickly. Many men seem to enjoy the feeling of their partner locking her legs around his back, but again this can cause him to come quickly. Presumably the reason is that it conveys how much she wants him inside her - and how much she wants him to come in her, which is a real turn-on for a man.

Woman's legs over man's shoulders

As you might expect, this allows the deepest penetration of all. The man is likely to find this very stimulating, and get some good orgasms, but he needs to be respectful and considerate of his partner's needs. She may just find vaginal thrusting too painful and stimulating, and need him to back off a little if he gets too excited. Good communication between the partners will help enormously here. But it's a very satisfying position for both partners if they are flexible enough.

The man kneels for the missionary

Here is one variation on the missionary which does allow the woman's clitoris to receive the attention it deserves! The man can pull the woman onto his penis by placing his hands on her thighs, and she can raise her legs in the most comfortable way - even up onto his shoulders if she wishes. The man can see himself going in and out of her vagina, which can be an incredible turn-on, and he can caress and stroke his partner's body and perhaps play with her anus as well if they wish. A good position for intimate connection, but somewhat of a strain for the woman if it goes on for too long. A pillow under her buttocks may help.

The woman keeps her legs closed

If the female partner keeps her legs together, the sensations will be different again. Obviously the tighter her vagina, the more intense the sensation for the man. A technique well worth experimenting with, though again the feeling of tightness may encourage the quick comers among men to shoot too fast.

Most women enjoy the missionary position with legs apart. This is not necessary and many couples prefer positions where the woman can keep her legs closed. Added stimulation and unique sensations are usually what result. When her legs are closed, a woman’s vagina tightens around her partner’s penis giving more intense stimulation to both partners. This position also forces the man to enter from a sharper angle towards the clitoris adding more stimulation for the woman. The man in this position may also close his legs, placing all his weight on his partner. Careful here, some women appreciate this feeling, others are burdened by it

How to get the love you want

Seek the Best in Your Spouse : Every marriage has its bumps, and they can pop up at any time. What's important is that you learn to navigate them smoothly -- before they send your relationship into a ditch.

No matter how far along the marriage highway you've gone, there are some simple, fundamental rules of the road. Putting them into practice isn't always easy, but it's critical. If you do play by the rules, you'll make your marriage stronger, and the good stuff -- fun, sex, trust, affection -- will be better than ever.

1. Build up your love balance. Boredom, frustration and everyday irritations can douse the spark between you and your spouse -- and more of the same certainly won't feed the flame. Making the good stuff your top priority will. Here's how to do it:

First, consider that it takes up to 20 positive statements to outweigh the harm done by one negative one -- or by a steely squint or impatient "humph." So do more of the former, less of the latter. Compliment your wife on her new shoes, or your husband on his new blue shirt. Thank him for helping around the house. Dial her office for a quick "thinking of you" check-in (don't discuss household chores or bad report cards).

Be sure these compliments and thank-yous are heartfelt and specific: "I can always count on you to make sure my car is safe and ready to use." "This new tablecloth is nice -- you're always thinking of ways to make our home pleasant." Make eye contact when you smile or deliver a compliment. Try a little joyful noise (a happy sigh, say) when giving a loving touch.

Once you take this approach, you'll realize that, in addition to knowing how to push Mr. or Mrs. Right's hot buttons, you know how to push his or her joy buttons too (and we don't just mean sex). After all, that's how this whole thing started. It won't be long before you appreciate that it's always the right time for small acts of love. Give him a "glad to see you" hug and kiss when you get home. Surprise her with coffee in bed on a rainy Sunday (then stay to talk). Revel in the best qualities; let faults slide. Flash your "I'm so happy we're here together" smile as you schlep the recycling bin to the curb. Resolve to enjoy a long kiss before you turn in each night. You do little things for your kids. Why not for your spouse?

2. Reach out. Human touch aids the release of feel-good endorphins, for giver and receiver. So link arms as you walk into the grocery store. Brush her cheek with your fingertips when you smooch good morning. Revive the ways you touched in the early days -- a kiss on the back of the ear, a hand through her hair. Touch is a complex language. It pays to improve your vocabulary.

Adding more of this kind of touch will help you build a fortress of love. That's important, because a couple who form a tight unit can weather any storm (and are better able to stave off infidelity). How do you build this bond? First, support your soul mate. Take his or her side whenever possible if trouble arises in the "outside world." Keep your spouse's secrets to yourself, even when everyone at work spills theirs. Except in a true emergency, don't let anything interrupt "us" time. That's what voice mail and bedroom-door locks are for.

Speaking of "us" time: Make a commitment to spend up to 30 minutes a day chatting with each other about everyday plans, goals and, yes, dreams. One rule: no household-management or "what about our relationship" talk. This is time to build a friendship. Studies show that being friends pays off over time, ensuring a closer, sexier union. And don't forget to make time for intimacy, even if you must log it in your day planner. Schedule sex? Absolutely, if necessary. Spontaneity is great, but if either of you hungers for affection or physical love, don't wait for that special moment.

Another thing you shouldn't wait for: chances to celebrate success. Super Bowl victors. World Series champs. Gold-medal skiers. They all have one thing in common: When they win, they party. And even small victories deserve recognition. If your marriage is humming along, that alone is worth celebrating. Dine out where you proposed. Or book a midwinter-deal trip to Paris. You've earned it.

3. Remember -- nobody's perfect. It's tempting to blame your spouse when you feel angry, disappointed, bored, betrayed or stressed out about your marriage. Then it's a short hop to seeing your mate as the one who must change for the marriage to improve.

That's a cop-out. Trying to improve your spouse puts him or her on the defensive and casts you in a dreary role. The result? Nobody changes. Nobody takes responsibility. Everyone is unhappy. And making your spouse the bad guy means ignoring the 90 percent of him or her that's good.

The true fix: Change yourself. When you address your own flaws and seek the best in your spouse, magic happens. Optimism increases. Your spouse feels better because he or she feels appreciated, not chastised. And you both feel motivated to change in ways that lead to even more joy.

One tip to help get you thinking this way: Adopt the Japanese philosophy of imperfection, wabi sabi ("wah-bee sah-bee"), which applies well to real-life love. Next time your guy or gal does something annoying, take a breath, mutter "wabi sabi" and remind yourself that his or her intentions are good, even if the execution isn't. At the same time, don't ignore what's good in your spouse. Each day this month, pick something, big or small, that you like about him or her. Then name it. For example: "My wife is thoughtful" or "My husband makes me laugh." Then think of a specific act that backs it up: "She brushed the snow off my windshield last week." "If I'm feeling blue, he'll joke me out of it."

Finally, honor your own imperfections. Sometimes we blame ourselves for all that's off kilter in our marriage. Too much guilt can paralyze. So, think of qualities you value, tell yourself you have them and think up real-world examples. "I am loving and kind -- I gave my spouse the last cookie yesterday." "I am honest -- I tell her what I'm really thinking.

Sex position for comfort

Finding the best sex position takes creativity and experimentation. Many people are looking for new sex positions, curious about the most popular sex positions, or trying to find sex positions that are comfortable and functional. Learning about sex positions can be made much easier by seeing images of sex positions.

The illustrated sex positions in this gallery cover basic sex positions, all demonstrated through the assistance of our wooden models (lets call them A & B). Remember that the best sex position is the one that is physically comfortable, and allows you do what you want.

Why such a paradox? Are we afraid to admit that we secretly crave something more exciting, while we're bored with the missionary but we do it because we think it is what our partner wants, without having ever actually asked them? It does seem strange, but sex is a personal and mysterious thing, and what couples say they want in surveys seems very different to what they actually do in the bedroom. Maybe the idea of rear entry and woman on top seem good because of their raw animal lust for men and the assumed position of power for women, but what men and woman actually want during sex is to feel intimate and connected with their partner.

This may be why the missionary is the most common position couples actually use, for it certainly allows for great intimacy in the form of eye contact and full skin-to-skin contact and the ability to kiss and hold each other close. Also, some women seem to like the slight sense of being trapped or dominated by their partner if he is lying on top of them, and it can be very exciting for the man if the woman rests her feet on his calf muscles or wraps her legs around his back, drawing him in closely to her.

And yet the missionary has a disadvantage for a woman - her pelvic movements can be restricted, so she cannot thrust as much, which means she must be more passive, and her clitoris is often not stimulated as much as in other positions - at least, it is certainly not available for the man or woman to play with. Unless she can come from vaginal thrusting alone (which is unusual), she may not have an orgasm unless the couple take care to ensure she gets one during foreplay or after intercourse.

sex in the bathroom

Bathrooms – both public and private – are popular places for sexual activity. But it’s the public tryst, the one that places you in the exciting position of maybe getting caught, that is often favored and enjoyed the most.

Knowing how and when to have that bathroom tryst is tricky. Making it hot can be even trickier. But don’t worry; I have some tips that will get your motors running!

1. Get ready!
   If you and your lady have plans to go somewhere and have hot sex in the bathroom, be prepared in advance for sexual activity. Take a shower before you go and both of you should forgo underwear. This makes for easier and quicker ‘access’. Bathroom sex is a “get down to it” kind of activity so you don’t want to be slowed down by unnecessary layers of clothing.

2. Step 2

   Scope out your spot.
   Do you know another couple who enjoys bathroom sex? Ask them which restrooms are best. If you don’t have that resource, do a little checking of your own. Scope out the restrooms in your favorite restaurants and bars and pay attention to which are furthest away from the action and which are less busy. Do any of the bars or restaurants have unisex bathrooms? This is a plus!

3. Step 3

   Plan for a time that’s not busy.
   The element of making love outside the bedroom is hot. That alone is enough to get most people turned on. Still, be careful of where you ‘commit the act’. Don’t put yourself in danger or at a high risk of getting caught. One way to achieve this is to simply pick a time that’s not busy at your location of choice. Dinner hours at the restaurant? Bad time. How about late evening just before the restaurant stops serving? If at a bar, 10 p.m. is the worst time. But 8 p.m., before the activity really gets going, is a better time.

4. Step 4

   Be ready to do it quickly.
   Tease and play with each other before you get in the bathroom. If you are both primed and ready, you can have hot, lustful sex that is quick and satisfying. (The sooner you’re done, the fact that you’re both missing and ‘somewhere hiding’ is less noticeable.)

5. Step 5

   Keep it clean.
   Before you get down to business, wipe the seats, the rails and anything else you think you might be touching. You can even bring your own antibacterial wipes if you want to. But let’s be honest – you’re exposing your most private parts to a public bathroom and they are often not clean. Do what you can to keep yourself as clean as possible.

6. Step 6

   Make full use of bathroom ‘resources’.
   Although the size of the bathroom will likely limit some activities, this does not mean you can hardly do anything inside the bathroom. You can perform oral sex on each other, engage in a variety of standing intercourse positions, and even put one leg up on the toilet for extra “oomph”. Brace yourselves against the wall, lean over the handrail in the handicap restroom, or have one partner straddle the other while sitting on the toilet (which has the toilet seat down, obviously).

7. Step 7

   Sshhh… be quiet.
   It’s hot and it’s exciting. You are really enjoying yourself. It’s all good. But you still should be as quiet as you can. That means, very quiet. In fact, having to be quiet can be very exciting. It reminds you that you are taking a risk and for many people, that’s exciting. Anyone who comes in the restroom might be privy to anything you say or do. Many people might turn a deaf ear, but you don’t want someone to come in who won’t turn a deaf ear. That’s too risky. So pretend like it’s high school again and you don’t want your parents to hear. Keep it THAT quiet.

8. Step 8

   Exit the bathroom separately.
   If it’s a woman’s bathroom, let your lady head out first. You should follow a few minutes later. If someone comes in as you are leaving, act as if you walked into the wrong bathroom by accident. Use those acting skills! If you enjoyed each other in the men’s bathroom, you should leave first, and have her be the one to feign ignorance.

Sex position-rear penetration

Introduction: A successful sexual relationship isn't just about positions. If you're having trouble communicating, or you're experiencing anger or hostility or a sense of distance from your partner, knowing about new ways to have sex may not make any difference to your love life. But, having said that, if your relationship is working reasonably well, but the spark of passion has left your sex life, trying out some new sex positions can add intimacy, connection and fun to your relationship.
Considering how much time we all spend trying to get sex, or find a partner with whom we can enjoy lovemaking, it may be strange that we get bored with sex so easily. But sex is no different to any other human skill - it requires practice to do it well, and it requires new ideas and stimulation from time to time to ensure that it remains fresh and enjoyable. So, relax, get your partner alongside you, discuss these positions, and then have fun trying them out!

Thrusting : We tend to think of intercourse or lovemaking as a penis-in-a-vagina experience that has to involve thrusting - the old in-out, in-out routine. But there are plenty of ways that a man and woman can achieve intimacy and fulfillment without vigorous penile thrusting. Once her man's penis is inside her, many women experience a sense of fulfillment and connection that is precious and important to them whether or not their man thrusts. And though men have a deep instinctual urge to thrust, they too can enjoy these gentle experiences of closeness and connection.

Another possibility is to enjoy different kinds of movement once the man has inserted his penis - a gentle rocking motion or gentle circular movements of the hips is often enjoyable. And since the vagina is most sensitive nearest its outer edges, shallow penetration in which the man just inserts his penis an inch or two, then withdraws, and then gently re-enters to the same depth can be very teasing and enjoyable - especially if his partner can squeeze his penis with her vaginal muscles as he moves in and out!

Increasing the Excitement

In the mood of love : It's easy to neglect romance at home, especially as errands and household chores pile up. But your house is an excellent place to ignite romantic sparks. "Romance can and should flourish in the home because it's where people are most comfortable," says Leslie Karsner, author and romance coach. The good news is that it's easy and inexpensive to create a romantic mood. Enjoy a more beautiful home, and a more exciting love life, by following these tips to tease your partner's five senses.

Nothing is worse than boring sex! We all want our intimacy to be exciting, passionate, and intense. However, truth be told, great sex doesn’t always happen overnight, particularly in long-term relationships in which the same “routine” is often applied.

Rest assured, sex doesn’t have to be run-of-the-mill, no matter how long you've been together! Here are some great ways to increase the excitement in your relationship and get your hearts pumping in the bedroom:

Initiate something new, all on your own. Many times couples expect their partner to take their lead. They want more romance, more excitement, and more passion, yet they do nothing to create it themselves. They just sit back and wait for their partner to wake up one day and read their mind! Well, it’s not going to happen that way. You have to take the initiative, make the first move,and spice things up with your own two hands.

Try starting off the day by leaning over and giving your partner a deep, sensual kiss, or join him in the shower after he gets home from the gym. Find little ways to surprise him into remembering how sexy and spontaneous you are!

Bring it out of the bedroom. If you want intercourse to be more exciting, try switching up the venue! Sure, the bedroom is great, and most couples have experimented in their bathroom as well — but what about the kitchen, the back porch, or even the car? Just by having sex somewhere new (and somewhere slightly scandalous) you can get out of a sex rut and embrace your inner daredevil!

Don’t be afraid of a little kink. Erotica and sex toys get a bad rap in our society. People tend to think that these sexy items are for "freaks" or, at the very least, for singles only. But this isn’t the case! Plenty of couples have found that erotica spices up their sex drives and keeps them adventurous, and you and your mate will no doubt find the same. And, don’t fret, ladies. If you aren’t into hardcore pornography (let’s face it, those adult movies are made with men in mind), there are plenty of female-friendly erotic films out there that feature actual plotlines and realistic body parts!

If you aren’t ready for erotica or sex toys just yet, try playing with a little light bondage or role-play. It’s okay if you feel silly or awkward at first, just stick with it and have fun!

Don’t believe the hype. No matter what you see featured in romantic movies, the truth is that every couple experiences ebbs and flows in the bedroom, and everyone has to work to keep their sex life fresh and fun. Don’t get caught up in the idea that there is something wrong with your relationship if you have to schedule in date nights and sex, or that intimacy shouldn’t take effort and preparation. Relationships are about communicating and staying committed, even when it comes to what happens between the sheets.

Put in a little extra effort to keep your sex life exciting — and you'll reap the benefits!

Knowing when to say you are sorry

Dim the Lights : Lighting is essential for setting a romantic mood, especially soft, subtle, and low lighting. So use adjustable lighting, and experiment with candles. If it's not too warm, create some chemistry by snuggling up with your partner in front of a fireplace. Even an electric fireplace can boost your love life. "Little white Christmas lights are also great for a romantic evening," suggests L.A. Hunter, romance expert and author of the book Romeo's Playbook. "They can be displayed just about anywhere. For example, on trees, fireplace mantles, and headboards."

Katrina and Jason are seated on the same side of the sofa but their body language revealed what a marriage counselor can easily detect among married couples who have chosen to live the MAR in marriage.

The couple is seeing a marriage counselor for the fist time since they were married. They have been having trouble lately over trivial matters that seem to spark their hostility towards each other.

She said when Jason has a bad day at the office his bad mood continues after work. He arrives home poker-faced, and oblivious to Katrina's words of welcome. Such behavior has been going on for quite sometime now, she said, but there seems to be no effort on his part to apologize for taking his office problems home and taking them out on his wife.

Many married couples today find it hard to maintain a workable marriage, much less a happy one. It may be the pressure of making the family finances better, or the mundane task of maintaining the household. Whatever it is, it is clear that married couples do not treat each other the way they did before they got married.

During the dating stage, the sweetest moment for a couple is the reconciliation stage after a disagreement because each makes every effort to act beyond what is expected of him. This is what we call the "sweetheart" stage, when the couple is getting to know each other without any pressure attached on their relationship.

A couple making up for a wrong committed against the other will make use of every trick in the book to be forgiven. Saying “I’m sorry” is romantically done by sending short notes, simple gifts or flowers.

Create a Romantic Mood at Home

A newly-wed couple will still retain the "sweetheart" stage early on in the marriage. This means saying sorry for doing something wrong is still an effortless action.

After a while or after being married for quite sometime, the couple will become so familiar with each other that they treat the other not as a lover but the way they would treat other family members.. During this time, pride gets in the way and the words "I’m sorry" has taken a back seat.

Saying that you are sorry is important in maintaining a good marriage. By saying “sorry”, the damage done by too much familiarity and heartlessness against the other spouse heals a little. Staying married for years without uttering these words would mean the piling up of heartaches and even hatred in a couple's hearts. This is not healthy in a relationship because it alienates the other.

Couples who have the tendency to fight, even over trivial things, should relearn the art of saying “I’m sorry”. It is an art because it is a gift from within - but it has to be learned. Married couples who want to keep their marriage should relearn the art which was used when they were still dating.

Saying sorry to your partner does not just tell him or her you are sorry for the things you have done. The important thing is that you are saying sorry because you have hurt your partner's feeling or that you did not mean to do so. Hearing sorry may not turn back the clock but it will somehow ease the pain.

But saying “I’m sorry” without really meaning it can just worsen the fight. If the other spouse is not “dense”, then the insincerity of the apology will be noticed. Of course, it is easier to say sorry to your officemates or friends, but saying sorry to one's spouse will make a difference in the relationship.

The danger is, you may have gotten so used to saying you’re sorry that it operates like a mantra when the other spouse accuses you of hurting his or her feelings. It will be like saying sorry without really meaning it. Saying that you are sorry should always be followed by a positive action from the erring spouse.

While saying sorry is not the be-all and end-all of a marriage problem, it is a good start and will show the other couple that there is hope for the marriage and that you are willing to do whatever it takes to keep that marriage alive.