It is a common believe that when the right use of a thing is not known abuse is inevitable. Marriage recipes when not well understood and used can become canker worms to marriage. What is it with women and money, sex, and communication? It is like cracks to females' heart.
I chose this subject because lately I have been having relationship issues, when it come to spending and saving money.
My wife has a spending habit, I might even go as far to say its an addiction. I mean she will nickle, and dime you to death. Funny thing is, she doesn't make expensive purchases, she makes many small ones that you don't notice that add up. When she has spent all of her money, she tries to stick her hands in my pockets. If I say no, it becomes a major issue, kind of like a crackhead needing money for crack- serious issues. Then she go's as far as bar rowing money, which really upsets me.
I have married for a along time now, so i know exactly what i am talking about, in my marriage I have learnt allot about what could go wrong and what can lead to divorce; what can turn your marriage to heaven on earth, and what can crash your marriage. what can make you and your spouse live like strangers under the same roof. There are 3 things that i came up with which can undo your marriage if not well utilized. This 3 things can also cement your marriage in love and harmony.
1) Communication, 2) Sex and 3) Money. If one of these things are a source of arguments, fix it quick, or get ready to go through hell!
Communication
When you cant talk to each other on a daily basis without screaming and yelling at each other ....that's a warning sign. Without communication you cant' fix the issues you are having. When you don't talk to each other, and start avoiding each other; a person can become bitter and resentful. When two people are resentful towards each other, its kind of hard to make up. Even during sex communication is a vital factor. Which brings me to ......sex.
Sex
Sex is a beautiful act to show you love someone, but lack of it in a marriage can cause a slue of other problems, that wouldn't normally exist. This is usually where cheating begins. What I hate about this part of the problem is that women, cut you off, or "shut it down" just to teach men a lesson. But in reality, it pushes a man to do stupid things he wouldn't normally have done. The Bible talks about this in Corinth 7- basically saying, a husband and his wife should not keep themselves from each other, due to lack of self control and temptation. I'm all for this fact, but a pissed off woman doesn't care.... not even GOD can move them.
Money
This subject causes more drama, than any other subject in a marriage. My wife unlike other women understands me very well when it comes to the issue of money, that is because we operate the same account. I am not a salary earner so there is no constant monthly basic income. We are good friends when it comes to monetary issues. Poorly handled finances can cause a serious crack on your marriage, severe lack of finances also can destroy marriages that the above 2 factors are not in their rightful places. Like I said before, my wife loves to shop when there is money but shrinks in when there is no money; she knows how to adjust. As for my spending habits? I rarely buy anything for myself. I just don't like to spend money when I don't have to.
Don't get me wrong. Me and my wife are not angels , we are only showing that we are in a unique covenant of marriage that nothing can severe; that is why we have a wonderful marriage. Your's may not be the same but i just have to tell you the truth; truths sets free but facts enslaves.
I am not saying we are the best, but I do know what we have been helped by God and we are eveready to learn new things that can get you abd others there. Kill the weed before it infest your whole yard. I want my grass greener on this side.
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