For a period of time I had a website about traditional marriage in terms of a Christian union and God's instructions for the married couple (man and woman). The site was doing quite well when I decided, for personal reasons, to remove it from the world wide web, and I always kept track of it, where the majority of hits were coming from and what search terms were bringing in the traffic.
I noticed that the search terms often seemed to reflect "my husband doesn't love me!" or "how can I make my husband love me?" My heart went out to these women who felt so lost and miserable, because I've been there. As a woman, I still frequently question my husband's love.
Many conversations with Christian men and women alike would indicate that this is probably because he just isn't "built for" love the way that I am. Men and women often stumble in the way in which they communicate with one another, and I have found that it is very easy for a man to look upon a woman with a man's understanding and for a woman to look upon a man with a woman's understanding.
I don't have all of the answers, ladies, but I do have some of them, and a good dose of sympathy to go along with them!
Your Marriage has Potential
Exchanging vows and rings isn't a guarantee of a successful marriage. I'm afraid that many men and women enter marriage believing that the vows themselves are enough to hold a marriage together. Granted, if two people take seriously those vows, then they are likely to remain married, but that doesn't mean that the marriage is necessarily "intact." Saying vows is not a guarantee that you are going to be happy in your marriage.
What your vows and your rings do mean is that your marriage has potential. Both individuals within the marriage have potential. You have the potential to succeed or the potential to crash and burn. By putting forth significant effort to make your relationship work, you bend the potential in the direction of a successful marriage.
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